Supporting children through the impact of divorce

Divorce is a significant life event that can have a profound impact on the entire family, especially children.

As parents navigate the emotional and legal complexities of divorce, it is crucial to prioritise the well-being and emotional stability of their children.

Communication and co-parenting

One of the most critical aspects of supporting children through a divorce is maintaining open and healthy communication with your co-parent.

Effective co-parenting involves keeping lines of communication open, setting clear boundaries, and prioritising the best interests of the children.

Regular discussions about parenting decisions, routines, and any changes that may affect the children’s lives can contribute to a sense of stability and security.

Consistency and routine

Children thrive on stability, structure, and predictability.

Establishing consistent routines between both households can provide a sense of security and help children adjust to their new circumstances.

Consistency in rules, expectations, and disciplinary approaches can help minimise confusion and anxiety.

Collaborate with your co-parent to create similar routines for essential activities such as mealtimes, bedtime, homework, and extracurricular activities.

Emotional support and validation

Divorce can evoke a wide range of emotions in children, including sadness, anger, confusion, and guilt.

It is crucial to create a safe space for your children to express their feelings openly and without judgment.

Validate their emotions and let them know it’s okay to feel the way they do.

Encourage healthy outlets for emotions such as journaling, art, or physical activities.

Additionally, consider seeking professional counselling or therapy for your child if necessary.

Avoid conflict and put children first

It is essential to shield children from parental conflict and ensure they are not caught in the middle of any disagreements.

Keep adult discussions away from their ears and avoid using children as messengers between parents.

Putting the children’s needs first means making decisions based on what is in their best interests, rather than personal grievances or disputes.

Model respectful and cooperative behaviour with your co-parent, as children often learn from the actions of their parents.

Strengthen your relationship with your child

Divorce can strain parent-child relationships, especially during times of transition.

Take intentional steps to strengthen your bond with your children.

Dedicate quality time to engage in activities they enjoy, actively listen to their concerns, and show consistent love and support.

Be present and involved in their lives to help foster a sense of security and stability.

Divorce can be a difficult time for all involved and the impact on children is particularly challenging.

For help and advice with family and relationship matters, please get in touch with Alison Green, Head of our Family and Relationship Team at Mackrell.Solicitors on +44 (0) 20 7240 0521 or at

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Alison Green
Alison has more than 25 years’ experience assisting clients with Family and Relationship matters. Her expertise covers matrimonial work, including divorce and the associated financial and children issues; pre and post-nuptial agreements; co-habitation disputes; civil partnership agreements and the breakdown of civil partnerships.